{"id":123,"date":"2013-12-01T08:57:01","date_gmt":"2013-12-01T08:57:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/?p=123"},"modified":"2021-06-08T08:57:21","modified_gmt":"2021-06-08T08:57:21","slug":"manage-your-performance-then-manage-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/2013\/12\/01\/manage-your-performance-then-manage-others\/","title":{"rendered":"Manage your performance \u2013 then manage others\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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In\u00a0my last post<\/a>\u00a0I explored the concept of the importance of managing ourselves when managing a potentially challenging performance conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are the tips I promised to help if you are one of those people who think they could do with a little more positive belief!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breathe<\/strong> \u2013 \u201ctake a deep breath\u201d, people sometimes say when about to undertake a new or challenging situation \u2026 this is because breathing is at the core of effective performance<\/a>. As soon as we lose our usual breathing pattern, it has a negative influence on our physiology, our posture, our feelings, our ability to perform. If you feel you are losing it, take a deep breath!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Count to 10<\/strong> \u2013 And then they say, \u201cCount to 10\u201d. This can help if you are experiencing unhelpful emotions \u2013 anger or frustration for example. Concentrating on a cognitive task can help re-focus your thoughts and regain composure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Smile more<\/strong> \u2013 when I coach people for job interviews, one of the behaviours I ask them to experiment with is smiling \u2013 from an hour before the interview. Smiling activates different emotions to frowning, and so will make a person feel more positive. Do you have a (clean!) pen or pencil nearby? If so, put it horizontally between your lips. Now do the same with it between your teeth. What is the difference? French researchers found that when people watched comedies with pencils between their teeth they found them funnier than when people watched them with pencils between their lips \u2013 the former making them smile, the latter giving them a sadder expression. Simple facial movements, but they can have a huge effect on the rest of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take control of your self-talk<\/strong> \u2013 don\u2019t tell yourself something is going to go wrong \u2013 tell yourself it will go right!<\/a>.  And do you use the word \u201ctry\u201d when you tell yourself you are about to do something? If so, you are possibly going to stop yourself before you start.  When Yoda, the small and strange Jedi Master in \u2018The Empire Strikes Back\u2019, is training the young Luke Skywalker, he sets Luke numerous challenges and tests to help build the boy into a Jedi. When Luke is given one particularly challenging task, he responds to Yoda that he will \u2018try\u2019.  \u201dNo,\u201d Yoda retorts, \u201cDo, or do not. There is no try.\u201d Tell yourself you will do it \u2013 as opposed to telling yourself you will try to do it. Create your own history<\/a> with positive self-fulfilling prophecies, and in order to do this \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Visualise yourself succeeding<\/strong> \u2013 you need more than talk. Picture yourself and hear yourself performing well in the situation you face. Experience the positive feelings this generates. Practice this and relatively quickly a person can turn a situation they are concerned about into a situation where they see themselves performing exceptionally well \u2013 and then they stay synchronised and carry it through on the day. If you would like more details on this technique, please let me know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But a word of warning \u2013 these techniques take a little time to perfect. Don\u2019t practice them for the first time at the workshop, practice them beforehand. Find out what works for you. Develop them to meet your own needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Manage your own performance \u2013 and then manage the performance of the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you have any other techniques that work? If so, please let me know. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Paul<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In\u00a0my last post\u00a0I explored the concept of the importance of managing ourselves when managing a potentially challenging performance conversation. Here are the tips I promised to help if you are one of those people who think they could do with a little more positive belief! Breathe \u2013 \u201ctake a deep breath\u201d, people sometimes say when about […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[5,19,29,30],"tags":[34,134,133,35],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/123"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=123"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/123\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":125,"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/123\/revisions\/125"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=123"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=123"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/breathe-pod.org.uk\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=123"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}